How to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back And Make Him Chase You

You’re in a huge fight. You got emotional and you’ve decided to break up. 3 days later, you’re searching for a way to get your ex-boyfriend back.

Sound familiar? Of course, that happens quite a lot.

I’ve personally been in breakups that I and my partner never wanted and in some cases, we never got back. Maybe because none of us wanted to apologize or maybe one of us got turned off by our partner acting needy.

However, my current girlfriend and I had a breakup and I noticed something really interesting. She acted a certain way and I swear I was so hooked that all I wanted was to get her back every single day of my life. In contrast, when I stopped being needy and acted in a certain way, she started chasing me.

Seems like magic isn’t it? No, it’s not. It’s the power of attraction in the works and here’s how you can use it to your advantage to get your boyfriend back.

Step By Step Guide to Getting Him Back

Step 1: Do not make contact.

It sounds counterintuitive but this phase has to happen for him to chase you. You have to show him that you’re ready to go on with your life without him. Show him you don’t need him.

You’re probably thinking that I’m losing my mind or that my advice would just drive him away to other women (which probably would temporarily) but how can he miss you if you sound so needy? How’s he gonna respect your worth if he knows you’ll be ready to take him back once he’s done enjoying his breakup period?

Before you go on and do this, make sure you closed your relationship with a show of respect and understanding. Show him you understood why you broke up and respect his decision (if he initiated).

In contrast, when you’re the one who broke up with him, explain with the intent of making him understand. Don’t just nag about what he did wrong.

At some point, there’s a chance during the conversation that you may both decide to be in a relationship again and that’s okay, as long as you both understood what happened and decided to fix it.

But if you didn’t, do this step and commit to it. NO CONTACT means no replies, no text, no Instagram likes, and most especially NEVER POST ANYTHING RELATING TO HIM. This phase would probably take about 1-3 months depending on how you do the following steps.

Step 2: Take better care at yourself

If you’ve always been the woman who takes care of yourself, do something new to take better care of yourself. If not, then it’s time for you to do it.

Get physically, mentally, and spiritually healthy.

Start attending fitness classes like yoga, CrossFit, or anything that’ll keep you fit. Spend money on a new haircut, new skincare routine, nails whatsoever. Buy better clothes and don’t be afraid to wear them. Take the course you’re always interested in like cooking, copywriting, and read books on just about anything.

This is the time to pamper yourself and show that you’re a strong independent woman. Show the world (not just him) that you can move forward by yourself and that you don’t need a man to take care of you.

By doing that, two things will happen: Firstly, you’ll look 100% sexier, and secondly you’ll get to enjoy the little things in life that you do for yourself.

Love is different from the attraction. If he’s your boyfriend for a very long time, he probably does love you, but loving you doesn’t mean he’s attracted to you or vice versa (you guys wouldn’t break up if otherwise)

During this step, you have to be the woman that he fell in love with (or better).

Step 3: Get social

Have you been with your friends lately? Have you met new people in the past year since you’ve been together? If not, now is the time to get social and post it.

Show him you have a life besides him and that you have lots of people behind you. Show him you’re a great person (which you should be) for having lots of friends (and new ones).

Enjoy yourself and show it on social media. Travel, go out, have beers with new people, connect and make great connections with people.

However, post with the intent of sharing great experiences with the world (not just him). Don’t post with the intent of making him jealous or showing how wasted you are drinking with a bunch of guys. Or else, you’ll look needy, trying hard, and insecure.

Also, don’t post pictures of you being sweet with another man unless you genuinely like this other guy and ready to let go of your ex. Trust me, you’ll end up being the bad girl in a bad way.

The main idea behind this step is to show that you’re okay without a man in your life and that you can enjoy yourself.

Step 4: Try new things

Haven’t been to Vietnam? Go there. Never tried surfing? Try it.

This might seem a little off topic but trust me, this will get him to chase you. You’re doing things none of you thinks you’d do, you’re living life outside your comfort zone. When that happens, it’ll pique his interest and he’ll probably think to himself of all the fun you both could have.

Step 5: Friendly reply

Yes, at some point he’ll try to connect with you and when the time is right you reply to him as a friend and he’ll start flirting with you again, just like he did when you first started.

Careful not to do this early though. You still have to go through all the other steps including the no contact. You’ll know when the time is right when you both talk like there’s no more sense of ownership. Like both of you are talking like friends.

The reason why you reply to him as a friend and not as an ex-lover is that he’ll start showing you something better and something worthy of your attention.

If you start replying like an ex or like a girlfriend, you’ll kill the attraction you’ve built in the last 4 steps. He’s gonna think that he could just do it again and again because when he comes knocking, you’ll be right there waiting for him.

A Final Note

It is important that even after he starts chasing you, you still do steps 2,3, and 4. You have to keep him attracted by showing you could stand on your own and that you don’t need a man to take care of you.

By doing that, not only that you’ll get him back but also you’ll be in a better relationship.

Note that all these steps won’t work if the reason for your breakup was that you cheated.