12 Proven First Date Tips For Women That Keeps Guys Interested
Have you been feeling trapped in a loop of being ghosted by men after your first date?
I know what you’re thinking. You’re probably telling yourself he’s just a douche or that you’re simply weren’t made for each other.
It’s also entirely possible that you committed the 11 unacceptable first date mistakes.
If you’re tired of being ghosted, stick along cause here are 8 first date tips that will keep a guy you really like interested.
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8 First Date Tips at Glance
- Maintain eye contact
- Be calm at all times
- Prompt him to talk about himself
- Offer to split the bill
- Crack a big smile often (show your teeth)
- Keep your phone
- Tell genuine, fun stories (but not too personal)
- Dress sexy but not too revealing
- Always be courteous and respectful to the people around
- Act comfortable and confident
- Don’t give in too easily
- Listen attentively
1. Maintain eye contact
Making eye contact penetrates the soul of whoever you’re talking to and it’s generally a good practice to do this at all times.
It just makes everything so sincere, respectful, and honest. Also, it deepens connection and it almost feels like you know exactly who you’re talking to when you look them in the eyes. It builds trust and confidence in that other person.
If you can’t look a man straight in his eyes, you project insecurity and being unconfident which is not a good impression to make, especially on your first date.
2. Be calm at all times
Have you noticed that you instantly look up to that mysterious guy in movies that remains calm despite the dilemma? Think of characters like John Wick or Jack Sparrow. They’re so calm and confident you can’t help but admire their characters. It blows an air of mystery behind their personality.
Now you don’t have to be in an action setting to act calm. Simply let go of the usual stress triggers and be unfazed by distractions that’s happening around you.
For example, You ordered a meal at a restaurant and it took twice as long as it used to, let it pass, don’t frown or act bored, and more especially don’t yell at the waiters (more on this later).
3. Prompt him to talk about himself
Fun fact: people love talking about themselves.
In fact, Dale Carnegie mentioned in his book How to win friends and influence people that if you want another person to like you, encourage him to talk about himself.
Now there’s a way to do this on a date that won’t make it feel like an interview (guys hate being asked a lot). Prompt him to talk about something.
For example, you saw that his screen saver is him drinking coconut on a white sand beach that’s familiar to you. Instead of asking him where that place is, who’s he with, and things like that, you can simply say “You looked like you were having fun in that photo, I’ve always wanted to go to the beach last summer“.
You’ll be surprised how that little prompt will encourage him to talk about all the adventures that have happened and how much fun that trip was.
4. Offer to split the bill
The act of offering to split shows independence and confidence. It shows you don’t feel entitled to anything and it’s just sexy overall.
Most guys will take care of it and if they do accept it and thank him, you’ve already done your part. You can, however, offer to pay for something else by simply saying “Thanks, wait here, I’ll get us a beer (or ice cream, or whatever)”.
5. Crack a big smile often (show your teeth)
When you smile, your body release endorphins (the happy hormones) for both you and him which will generally lead to a happier dating experience.
A happier dating experience leads to both of you wanting to see each other again.
Generally speaking, smiling is scientifically proven to help build trust, bond, and attraction. In fact, there’s a book dedicated to the positive effects of smiling within our lives titled A Life Worth Smiling About.
6. Keep your phone
I don’t know how much other guys hate this, but women who can’t stop checking their phones are annoying. It shows a lack of interest, boredom and it’s just plain rude, especially when you’re talking.
Instead, engage, talk, connect. It’s how people create lasting relationships and it will show that you’re fun to be with.
If you’re waiting for an important call or text message that cannot be delayed at all cost, at least let him know.
7. Tell genuine and fun stories.
People come and go but stories live forever.
Good stories will keep his attention and keep him engaged. I will also string to multiple conversations.
Talk about your most recent trip, or how locals in some tropical island in the Philippines are so hospitable that you felt at home. Be creative in gathering them, listen to your friends, gain experiences, read books, talk to strangers. Keep it genuine and avoid making things up (he’ll know if you made stories up).
It is important, however, not to engage in personal and controversial topics on your first date. Avoid topics about family problems, your ex, business, or even politics. It might trigger negative emotions for both of you.
8. Dress sexy but not too revealing
Sexiness isn’t about the amount of skin you show. There’s a certain sexiness to not-so-revealing clothes that keeps guys thinking about you longer.
Think of showing the shape of your body (hence, the importance of living a healthy lifestyle) rather than skin. Wear fit jeans, dress or sleeveless top rather than very short shorts and a tube.
Keep him guessing.
9. Always be courteous and respectful to the people around you
Kindness goes a long way for a lot of people. Including the man your dating.
Crack a smile to everyone, say hi, call your waiter by name (that’s what the nametag’s for), don’t be rude, and listen attentively to anyone who’s talking to you.
10. Act comfortable and confident.
If you need something, ask, if you want something, make a request politely. Show that you’re a woman who knows what you like and get it on your own.
Don’t be shy. Some guys have a hard time talking to shy women.
11. Don’t give in too easily
Don’t give everything up on the first date (including sex, and making out). At least get to know him and genuinely have fun on your conversations first (unless the main reason for your date is to hook up).
If you disagree on something, say it politely, if he says he wants to eat at his favorite restaurant that you don’t like, tell him and suggest a different one.
Guys appear that they want to be in control most of the time but in reality, that’s not really what we like. We want someone to share decisions with, someone who makes suggestions and who makes us work to get what we want. We want someone to share the experience with.
12. Listen attentively
I have been in conversations when I genuinely enjoyed so much only to realize I was the one doing most of the talking.
That’s because the person I was talking to was an excellent listener. I felt like he understood what I was trying to say and that he cared.
The feeling of being understood is a powerful thing and in order to understand, you must listen.
When you listen, don’t just stay silent. Be engaging, ask questions relating to his story, acknowledge by nodding your head or saying “hmm-mm”. It’ll show you’re listening and that you care about what he has to say.
Conclusion
First dates could be bone-chilling. The anxiety of whether he’ll like you or not coupled with the fear of the unknown can be a source of stress.
That’s all part of the process. Just remember to stay calm and think about enjoying yourself. Think of it as meeting a new friend rather than finding a potential soulmate.
First dates are meant to be fun and exciting. There’s nothing really to worry about, the worst that could happen is you don’t end up together.
